The Cure for Frustration

 February 20, 2014
Posted by Kim Reed

We in Shaklee can be very, very arrogant.  Seriously. No joke.

We can also be very big-hearted, which is often how we rationalize the arrogance.  After all, we are only trying to help, right?

 

Now before everyone gets all indignant, let’s consider the definition of arrogance:

“Offensive display of superiority or self-importance; overbearing pride.” ~ Random House Kernerman Webster’s College Dictionary

 

Overbearing pride.  Yep, that’s what happens when we know we can help someone.  Whether they asked us or not, we begin to tell them, in great detail, how Shaklee is different and what they should do.  We call it “fire-hosing.”  It’s why, when I first started learning more about the Shaklee Difference and talked about it every chance I got, my mom literally asked if I’d joined a cult. (Note to Facebsoapboxook over sharers:  Multiple daily posts promoting your business is the digital equivalent of fire-hosing.  It’s also a good way to get blocked.)

 

Of course, our intentions are most always in the best interest of the other.  It’s the methodology that is the problem.  Actually, I take that back.  It’s the lack of awareness. (BTW, I may be talking about this in the context of Shaklee, but this concept applies to all interactions or relationships.)

 

How about we give up our arrogance?  How about we stop trying to convince others that Shaklee is the best and look for people who are ready to have Shaklee in their lives?

 

But I know this could help.”  I don’t care how magnanimous the motivation is, anytime we think we know better, we are forcing our own opinions.  This is the problem in politics.  No one is listening to anything other than the sound of their own agenda.

 

Give up the debate.  It is a clear sign we are forcing our own agenda instead of hearing theirs.

We get so frustrated, don’t we?  We put our attention on figuring out what to say. How do I handle their objection(s)? How do I get this person to SEE that we have the answer?

 

We don’t.

 

Anytime any of this is going on for us – debating, frustration, fear, worry, strategizing on the perfect thing to say –  any of these is a clear indication that we are operating on our own agenda and not listening for theirs. Overcoming objections isn’t about convincing someone that Shaklee is the best.  Real success is about figuring out if, at this moment, Shaklee is the best for them.

 

Freedom comes from focusing on having a conversation rather than getting them to say yes.  

 

If I am truly detached from the outcome then I can truly help because I am listening for their needs, not trying to meet mine.  Freedom comes from letting go of our agendas and what we think we know.

 

Whatever we push against pushes back. When we give up push backdefending our position and receive the person in front of us instead, the results that come back are pretty darn amazing.  By letting go of our agenda, our need to be right, we free people to come towards us.  Unfortunately, we can be blind to how firmly we are planted in them. The key is to catch ourselves in the act of holding on.  That is the hard part.   Agendas are insidious.  It takes practice to see and get off them, but that, my friends, is the cure for frustration.

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Master the Possible | Illuminating Possibilities: This blog is dedicated to the notion that success leaves clues. And, let me offer the disclaimer that none of this is new. None of my revelations are original. Certainly, beginning with the ubiquitous success reference is evidence already. I actually believe that there really is nothing new under the sun. All anyone does, especially when it comes to self-help or actualization is merely rearrange the material. If you think about it, you might say that most (all?) non-fiction writers become best-sellers because of how they organize and communicate the material. The material is not new, only their way of saying it is.

My learning comes from a myriad of sources, modalities and mentors. I strive to give credit in all cases so that readers may access the source(s) directly. I have benefited from many life pursuits including that of a professional actor. As of now, the primary learning lab is my work as a marketing, recruiting and training coordinator with TeamONE, a group in partnership with Shaklee Corporation. Thus, much reference is made within that context.

I don’t always know what I’m doing nor do I claim to be an expert. I reserve the right to get it wrong and make mistakes. I am figuring it out as I go. I believe there are many roads to greatness, many paths to God. The one that is right, is the one that’s right for you. I endeavor to share what works for me in the hope that others may have an easier road to travel. Simply put, my intention is to be an illuminator of possibilities. Shine on! ~ Kim